Ashleys's Adult Dating for Singles, Couples and
Swingers
Hi !
Welcome to my adult dating site. It is a bit raunchy so try not
to click if you are a bit religious, conservative or
easily offended, 'mkay? Otherwise, just pick your
niche and click on those sexy looking
buttons below and have fun with it ! All of these
sites are highly rated and are always in the top 20
dating sites rankings-wise and you can take your pick
based on your needs. Some of the sites are just for
hooking up while some are geared towards those looking for a
more serious and
long-term relationship.
But before you go crazy taking your picks,
try to review the following safety tips
first.
OnLine Dating and How to Stay Safe
With so many people communicating via
the web and deciding to date virtual strangers, it is
important to be safe and be smart.
Trust your instincts
and use your common sense. Here are some
tips for playing it
safe:
Watch out for
someone who seems too good to be
true.
Begin by first communicating solely by email or
online chat. Be vigilant in noticing peculiar
behavior or inconsistencies. If you notice
evasive signs, your radar should flag it.
Although online, try to 'listen' to his or her
words. Always remember that the other party
might not be what they say they are. Go with
your instincts. If anything makes you
uncomfortable, walk away for your own safety
and protection.
Get as much intel as
you can.
Be as inquisitive as you can. Find out where he
grew up, where she works, and how he is
connected to his community. You will be like
Columbo trying to find out a person's profile.
If you detect hesitancy in giving personal
info, then that is a red flag. Try to look for
discrepancies as they tell you their life
story. As you ask your questions, if you see
that there is hesitancy in getting the answers,
be careful. Always err on the side of
safety.
Honesty is the
key to success. You should
describe yourself as accurately as you
can. In the online world, it is so easy
to say you look like Jolie when you are
not . Be honest about the basic things
such as marital status and how you
look. Start with a request for a picture
and send them a recent one of you. If
someone is unwilling to send a recent
picture, this is warning sign. If he or
she continuously comes up with an excuse,
it is because that person has something
to hide. Having a scanned photo is easily
available, so there is no valid excuse
for not doing it. After you have
exchanged pictures, continue to fill in
the gaps, so that the other person does
not create you in their image. Honesty is
the best policy as your grandma always
say.
Take it to the
next level by talking on the
phone. Talking reveals
valuable information about a person's
temperament and quirks. It's worth it to
call since you can continue to get a more
complete profile. But do not give out
your phone number to a stranger. Take
your time to see if a trusting bond is
there. Only when you feel completely
comfortable should you give your phone
number.
If you decide
to meet for a date, proceed with caution
and arrange the meeting on your
terms.
Try to also follow
these tips to ensure your
safety:
1.
Make sure a friend or anyone close to you
knows where you are going and when you
will be back from this first date. Leave
your date's full name and telephone
numbers with that person and write it
down. There are also websites these days,
like smartdatedotcom, where you can
register dating information such as
these, for a small fee. If your
date wants you to keep it secret, this is
a very big red flag. Your safety above
all else!
2.
Keep the location of the first date in a
public place. It must be where there are
other folks and preferably well lit.
Getting together for coffee is a
pleasant, casual way to get to know
someone.
3.
Very important - Do not let him pick you
up where your live. Giving your address
out to a stranger is not safe. Arrange
your own transportation so that you can
leave if there is any sign of
trouble.
4. Pay attention to everything
that this person has told you about him or
herself. This is like an audit, it you find he
lied online, move on.
5.
Do not bring your date back to your house
after the first meeting. Remember that
you are out with almost a virtual
stranger. Use the same kind of common
sense and rules that you would use in any
type of dating
relationship.
Be smart and be
safe. Be in control. Know what
you are getting into before you invest
your heart, money, or your life.
Information about the other person is the
key!
